At 30 weeks, I (finally) have a better sense of reality when it comes to pregnancy. As I was driving home the other day, I suddenly had the urge to share some insights about my pregnancy journey. Not ‘how’ we got pregnant or ‘why’ we got pregnant… but some of the realities behind this pregnancy that I’ve recently come to realize. The realities that I wish I had known beforehand but likely couldn’t have prepared for, even if I had known. Pregnancy is by far the most incredible experience and has changed me in more ways that I could’ve imagined but the biggest reality of all is that it can be a pretty scary, overwhelming thing. No matter what your personal journey entails, there are ups and downs to pregnancy. And that’s normal. That’s okay. And whether you already experienced this yourself, are going through it now or will encounter some of these things down the road, I hope this post will help you in one way or another. And if nothing else, sharing it with all of you will certainly help me. So thank you.

1. Make time for yourself and your better half. – As first-time parents, we really have no idea what we’re in store for but if there’s one piece of advice I can’t stress enough, it’s to cherish this time together and to make time for yourself too… because life is about to take a major turn. Looking back on married life over the last several years, I am truly grateful for the choice we made to wait to have children. We focused on ourselves, our careers, our life together. And with time quickly flying by before baby, we’ve made the commitment to slow down. Sounds easy, but in reality, it’s not at all. It’s natural to want to make the most of your free time before baby (and you should) but it’s also important to rest, enjoy the quiet, and savor these moments as a couple.

On that same note, taking time for yourself is a critical part of pregnancy. Whether you go on walks outside, take a prenatal yoga class, pamper yourself at the spa or enjoy a soothing bubble bath while reading your favorite book, moments to yourself will go a long way, helping you maintain a positive balance and calm that is so important for both you and your baby’s health and well-being.

2. Do things your way. – We’re brand new to this whole parenting thing and are soaking in all of the advice we can get. It’s such a blessing to hear from loved ones and friends on their personal experiences, what worked and what didn’t, what they would recommend, etc. etc. But what I’ve really come to learn is to take all of the advice with a grain of salt. Sure, some of it will apply to us as parents. But some of it won’t. We will make the choices that make sense for us as a family. We’re trusting our instincts, using advice that makes sense for us and learning as we go. And doing things our way, together, is the most fun of all.

3. Small potatoes. – All my life, I’ve been one to stress over the little things. I don’t rest easily and have a hard time seeing through the clutter. Yet, one of the best parts of my marriage is the balance my husband provides when it comes to seeing the glass half full. He is always the voice of reason, often talking me down from the ledge and giving me the perspective I need to come to a calm, practical solution — and this has translated well into my pregnancy too.

The truth is, not everyone knows how to react when you say you are expecting. Of course most people are thrilled for your big news but not everyone responds the way you would expect or hope they would. And that can certainly feel disappointing. In our home, we call this reality small potatoes. It’s our news to enjoy, celebrate and embrace. And whether everyone else shares in this incredible joy or barely offers a hand to help, it’s not worth the worry or upset. It might sting or hurt a little (and you may see someone’s true colors in the process) but in the end, preparing for your little one is the biggest joy of all and no one can take that away from you.

4. It’s okay to be sad sometimes. – At the beginning of this pregnancy, I was super distracted. We were busy making our house a home and were on cloud nine as we settled into our new surroundings. But then out of nowhere my third trimester came around. And truth be told, I’ve been sad. I suspected this would happen at some point during my pregnancy but I didn’t know when or why or how it would come to life.

Becoming a mother is something I have always dreamed of, and in just two short months, I’ll be meeting our baby and wishing so deeply that my mom could be here to hold her grandchild in her arms. I’m blessed — truly blessed — with some wonderful women who have been there for me to talk to, to guide me and offer advice, to share their own personal journeys of motherhood, and who have helped in their own ways. But this is still one of those big life moments to file under ‘it just really sucks.’

Yet I remind myself constantly that she is present in her own way. And while I may not be able to hold her hand or hear her voice, she is here with me in this moment. The tears just mean that I miss her — and that’s perfectly normal.

5. You are beautiful. – Over the years, I’ve grown to love my curves… but pregnancy brings on a whole new meaning to ‘curves.’ Your body is changing and growing faster than you can possibly keep up with and just when you think you’ve found some maternity-wear that looks cute, you have to throw in the towel, opting for maternity yoga pants and your husband’s oversized tees everyday.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve looked in the mirror and wanted to cry. My skin continues not to cooperate and I can’t seem to find an easy hairstyle that doesn’t look like I just rolled out of bed. There are days when I can’t possibly bring myself to brush my hair, the mere thought of putting makeup on sounds exhausting and I’d rather curl up on the couch than attempt to put together a decent outfit.

But then there are times when I feel like a complete babe, rockin’ the tight maternity tee, killer heels and a good hair day. And although this isn’t an all-the-time thing, those little moments are so important to my overall confidence as an expecting woman. I still get a manicure and pedicure every other week, get my hair blown out if I don’t have the energy to do it myself, take a bubble bath at least once a week, and try to stay somewhat active. Taking those small steps to pamper myself and feel pretty have gone a long way during these months, giving me a greater perspective on what it means to surrender your body to your growing baby — it’s truly a gift.

I can’t wait to share more of my journey into motherhood over the next several months and am so thankful to have you join me along the way. Be sure to follow me on Instagram if you aren’t already for nursery updates and bumpdate pics!

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I can’t believe I’m even about to write these very words…our little family is not going to be so little for much longer. Come March of 2016, we’re going to become a party of five! Gah! The hubby and I are thrilled, amazed and feel so incredibly blessed.

The other weekend we gathered to celebrate with family and friends and to reveal whether we were having a baby boy or baby girl. Follow along and you’ll soon find out yourself! As you may already know, I have two adorable little boys (yes, I’m blatantly biased). My oldest just began kinder and my youngest is clearly now venturing into his terrible-two’s phase.

So I simply could not wait to find out whether we would have a pack of boys or if I would finally be able to buy some bows! There was a small part of me that wanted to wait and let it be a surprise – kudos to Laur who is patiently waiting to find out about her little one! But my head and heart collided as the weeks drew near to that ever-important sonogram and I caved – I just couldn’t wait.

Since traveling so much for work in this season of my life, I haven’t made much time to be very creative. And with this pregnancy getting off to a rocky start with 15 weeks of almost constant morning sickness (a total sham of a name, if you ask me), I have been spending more time and energy just growing another human being and also trying to care for two other little monkeys who need constant attention. It’s been exhausting to say the least!

After all of that though, I was itching to throw a really surprising gender reveal party and it turned out pretty darn cute, if you ask me. And now that I’m settling nicely into the second trimester, I got the creative juices flowing again and managed to pull together a festive and fun baby reveal.

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I wanted sweet colors with blends of blues, greens, peaches and pinks. So from making my own confetti to reusing some spring-time decor for centerpieces, it was a low cost and easy way to add some special touches to my home for the big news. We took name suggestions prior to the reveal and everyone “voted” by wearing either a mustache or a pink bow. In addition, the hubs smoked a heavenly fall-apart brisket and we had a Torchy’s-inspired make-your-own taco bar – it was incredibly delicious. Sorry I didn’t capture any pictures of that – I was probably too busy stuffing my face. :)

We decided to let everyone eat first – since half the crowd (read: the men) were really there for the food anyways – and then we moved to the backyard afterwards. I let my kiddos and their cousins help with the fun task of making the big announcement and oh what fun they had! With confetti tubes armed and ready, cameras rolling and my sister (who lives in D.C.) live on Skype, we let the confetti fly! And after hugs and kisses and joyous wishes, we snapped this quick pick once it all settled…

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Yes, that is BLUE confetti on the ground of our backyard – we’re having a BOY!!!

It would take an entire other post and then some to completely describe how I have been feeling since we found out we will soon have a brood of boys; but my heart is full and I have joyfully accepted that I will be a mom of all boys. Boys. Three boys. Yes, I have said that to myself over and over and over and well, it is simply wonderful.

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Friends, it’s finally fall! Houston can be finicky when it comes to weather but the mornings have been cool and calming — and it’s a very welcomed change from the hot, humid summery months. I kind of can’t believe that the month of September came and went without us posting a single thing on the blog (eeek, sorry about that!) but I am feeling the itch to share so many things, starting with my last big shebang of the summer.

It’s no secret that I love to travel. Although I’m not a fan of the packing or security lines or flight delays and what not, the excitement I feel for getting away and exploring new places is pretty special. And I don’t take it for granted by any means. I’m thankful to be able to visit cities and countries around the world, seeing the sights, tasting the cuisines and learning about new cultures. I love the freedom that comes with traveling — and I’m also a big believer in disconnecting from reality while I’m away, too.

If you follow along on Instagram (me or Ruthie & Rose), then you likely saw a few recent snapshots of the Puerto Rican sunshine. Puerto Rico is a place I’ve long wanted to visit — so when we decided to plan our tropical babymoon, Puerto Rico was at the top of the list. I can’t even begin to describe how magical Puerto Rico is but gosh darn it, I’m sure gonna try!


First and foremost, my #1 rule when it comes to travel is disconnecting. Now granted, I did post a few pics but I didn’t check email or Facebook or anything — and it was absolutely, positively amazing. I was able to focus on me, my husband, our little growing baby and feel connected to what really matters most. And it made me appreciate life in the moment so much more.

For those of you who have Puerto Rico on your travel bucket lists, here’s a quick recap of what we did for this first leg of our babymoon journey.

We stayed at a GORGEOUS hotel fit for a king and queen (or mama and daddy). They treat you like you walk on water and I can’t complain about that! After a complimentary upgrade to a beautiful suite complete with ocean views, wrap-around balcony and plenty of room to relax, it was clear that we made the right hotel choice. We enjoyed the hotel’s many amenities including the divine spa, where I indulged in a much-needed “mommy to be” massage which was easily one of the best highlights from our 12-day trip.

Some of the other highlights to mention from our time in San Juan:

– Dinner at Budatai. Located just a block from Condado Beach, this place is fantastic! Ask for a table by the window and you’ll have great views while enjoying some of the best food you’ll find in this part of town. While this isn’t your typical Thai food, it’s a really great fusion of Asian flavors that will leave you full and happy. Be sure to order the pork belly sliders with salted caramel sauce… HOLY MOLY.

– Lunch at Aji Dulce. If you’re looking for authentic Puerto Rican food, this spot is just the ticket. Think of it as a homecooked meal by grandma. Yes, every single item is made to order — and it’s a perfect place to stop in for lunch while you’re checking out Old San Juan. Try everything!

– Speaking of Old San Juan, there are two forts within walking distance of each other that have some of the most magnificent ocean views we saw in San Juan. Because we went in the summer heat and I couldn’t really commit to anything too strenuous, we opted for one of the two forts: Castillo San Felipe del Morro. I’m not a huge history buff and frankly, this was more up my husband’s alley, but this fort is more than 500 years old and provides a real glimpse into the rich history of the island.

Of course, we also spent a lot of time on the beach and enjoyed some serious downtime too. Our 4 days in San Juan were a wonderful start to the trip… Stay tuned for part 2 of our babymoon, coming soon!

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